A woman, oh so multifaceted
with more than meets the eye,
You judge the covers of my book,
yet there’s so much in between. Continue reading
Why is it that we allow the words of others to affect us? Especially those who do not matter to us. Why do we have the need to feel appreciated and accepted by people who do absolutely nothing for us? Whether you do something or not, people will always comment. So you may as well do it and enjoy it, hey?
Why allow yourself to get overworked by opinions of people who do not matter? Don’t look for acceptance in others, if there is something you want to say or do, go ahead and do it. Do not fear what others may think. Fear often prevents us from living life to the fullest because we are constantly trying to justify our actions, when we really don’t have to.
Whether we want opinions or not, we are going to get them. We can’t control what others say, but we can control our reaction to it. Getting overworked about it is not going to help us in any way. Make a decision to say or do whatever it is that you feel and want, without having to worry about what anyone else is going to say. After all, what others say is their business, not your’s.
Does life sometimes feel like a sprint?
You find yourself continuously running and running…with no sense of direction. You’re running away from someone or something. The more you look back, the faster you want to run, but you’re actually slowing down and missing the beauty that lies in your journey. Sometimes it feels like a relay and you’re waiting endlessly for someone to pass you the baton. You take a step back trying to reach for it, but with a gush of excitement, you fall trying to reach for that baton.
Maybe, just maybe, if you focused on what lies ahead, this journey, or this marathon we call life, would be much more delightful. Why look back in regret when you can look forward to bright and beautiful things? There are going to be times we have to do things for ourselves and this means that we have to accept it isn’t a relay, we’ve got to run this marathon on our own. Continue reading
“My fists are clenched. Palms are sweating. I haven’t felt such anger within. It’s the deceit that has made me feel this way. I’m so out of control, I don’t know what to do. I don’t know what’s come over me. I just know I hate that you lied. I told you secrets I never told anyone. I gave you the best parts of me and that was all of me. You robbed me of my innocence. You’ve robbed me of the ability to trust again. You told me you’d never lie but I couldn’t see that was a lie until it was too late. You told me you loved me but I didn’t know it means nothing to you. I build my world around you. I ended friendships because of you. I lost family because I chose you. You…you were my world. Now my world has crumbled apart because of YOU!”
Have you ever felt this way? You’re not the first and you certainly won’t be the last. Somehow, when we love, we allow ourselves to go…to a point where we become strangers to ourselves. We allow another person’s actions to bring us down. We lose ourselves, we forget about what we like and what we want to do because we get so engaged in trying to please the other person. We get lost from the rest of the world, because our only focus becomes that person. That’s where we go wrong. Being in love or loving someone, does not mean you should give up all you enjoy, be it hobbies, work, friends or family. This type of behavior is immature and irrational. A mature relationship is accepting and understanding each other as individuals. Then there’s that lovely word compromise, for the things you don’t always see eye to eye on.
When you are an individual and respect yourself as that, you set yourself standards, not just for yourself but within your relationship as well. It’s a sense of independence. Because you know who you are and are independent, there’s no need to build your life around someone else. When you need someone so much, it becomes desperate and the more desperate you become, the less attractive you are to the other person, making you more obsessive because you adapt a nature which has controlling and obsessive traits. Thus, when your relationship ends, you’re unable to accept or deal with it, because you’ve forgotten how to love yourself. You don’t know how to accept yourself. Because you spent your time trying to be all and give all to the other person, who you thought would last for eternity.
Don’t allow your happiness or state of mind to depend on someone else. Learn to be emotionally dependent. Love yourself. Learn how to enjoy your own company. If someone in life lets you down, put on your big girl panties and pick yourself up, just ‘cos you can!