For most of my life, when I thought about having a baby, I imagined it would be a girl. I had the most beautiful dreams and visions of dressing up “my daughter” someday. Ribbons and bows, pink and purple. Tiaras and headbands, tutus and pearls, pretty little socks and old-fashioned frocks…aah how lovely it would be to dress up a little girl.
When I found out that I was pregnant, I wanted to know if it was a girl or boy. My husband on the other hand, didn’t want us to find out the sex of our baby. At first, I wasn’t at ease with this. I mean, how could I keep this a secret from myself? How would I go shopping and not know whether to buy pink or blue. I battled with this and tried to persuade my husband but he isn’t easily persuaded. He did tell me that if I wanted to find out the sex, that I should not tell him. That, I knew I would not be able to do. Continue reading
Employees want to feel valued, regardless at which level within an organisation, everyone wants a pat on the back or some sort of appreciation. What’s important to note, is that not everyone in the team would want the same sort of appreciation.
Many people leave jobs because they didn’t feel valued and sometimes we only realise the value of their contributions only when it’s too late.
The following are just some ideas and are not limited to ways of expressing appreciation; Continue reading
- No matter how long you are together, never take each other for granted
- Identify and understand each other’s preferred “love language” – I strongly recommend that you read a book called “The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman
- Begin and end each day with a meaningful kiss and/or hug
- Give praise and compliments often – acknowledge efforts/changes
- Never go to bed feeling angry with each other, even if issues are unresolved, agree to address it the following day
- Surprise each other, don’t let the romance die
- Have couple goals, e.g. Date nights, cooking together, studying together, exercising together etc.
- Don’t accuse or assume, listen attentively, not selectively
- Do not underestimate the need for intimacy- keep the flame alight
- Trust and respect each other no matter what – you may be married but you are still two individuals, this in itself means that it’s also important to have “me” time when needed
Wilted like a dying flower,
Your love, like water,
Helped me rise again.
The world saw me smile,
You saw from a mile,
My eyes told a lie.…
A lump in my throat,
Tears about to roll,
I suddenly smiled,
‘twas because of you.
The wind was blowing against
My hair for a while,
Set it back in place,
After every windy attack.
Then came the tornado!
I could not fight back.
A little wind,
That I could handle,
But a tornado,
Damn I have no control.
I’ll pick up the pieces,
Just live with what’s left.
No thirst this time.